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When a loved one dies unexpectedly, it’s a shock. You freeze, go numb, or fall to your knees in disbelief. Tears fall and you cry so hard. There are many ways you might react when the news comes to you. Whichever way it happens to you, it is terrible and something no one deserves. We understand. Your pain is felt. We can help. Here are a few tips that might relieve this pain even a little.
“A sudden death shakes you to the core. You can’t turn away from it; you can’t reason with it. You know that life will never be the same.” – Psychology Today, Sean Grover L.C.S.W.
Sudden Loss Tip
Allow yourself time.
You might be experiencing denial or want to shut all your emotions off, anything that slows down the shock or distracts you. Distractions can be good, but if you aren’t allowing time to yourself, you might snap abruptly. Take this time to heal. Go for a walk, take a nice warm shower, or play with the dog. For Christians, this is a time of prayer. You can say anything and everything in prayer. Grief is inevitable but difficult nonetheless.
Grief can feel like a mountain. It might be abstract at first if you haven’t felt it before. Or, it can feel like a steep and rocky path of emotions. The grief mountain can feel like you’ll never be able to reach the top and find hope again.
Don’t let it stop you. It might weigh you down, but taking that step you know is right and necessary will help you. You can do this. Let yourself lean on what comforts you. Take time to do your hobbies or things you love. Your loved one would want you to do what you love.
Processing Sudden Death: Solution
There are many solutions and aids to help you in this grieving process. Others may work better for certain kinds of individuals, but one of the best ones we recommend is connecting with others. Grief groups, and spending time with loved ones or family and friends can be a good opportunity to connect and find the empathy and understanding you need. In a grief group, you can speak freely with others going through similar situations, and people who truly understand your pain. You could also find therapy through animals, like dogs, cats, or horses. Other ways to help you cope in this time could be through music, writing in a journal, or reading books to help you find meaning.
Climb with us
Climb this grief mountain with us.
You don’t have to carry your grief alone. Holidays and family times carry with them grief, always. We will always miss the person who has died. Sometimes more intensely than other times. We will learn to carry that grief with us and honor that life, while also celebrating. Bakken-Young offers grief support opportunities as you learn to carry your grief with you, from grief groups to virtual conversations. Contact us today, as we carry that grief with you.
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